How Tp Get a Girl to Gain Intrest in You Again

• #1

Well met this girl 3 month'south ago and talked alot, her interest level was raising up and she was like always texting me, and everything was going well.

And then i don't know what the **** happened and my deseperation came into the picture. I became clingy and always texting her, asking her to reply back soon and when e'er the fourth dimension she don't text me back, i texted her request what's wrong.

You lot get the situation? So even after all the deseperation and clingyness, affair'south still kept going awesome for i week but then i saw her getting distant. I stopped my deseperative behaviour and tried to prepare information technology.

Just the trouble that i did was i kept on asking her what is wrong? What'southward bothering her and why she don't talk the way she used to do, and she kept giving me respond's that It'southward just that I'm over-thinking and naught is wrong at all.

Now electric current situation:

She flake's near all the times. She is very much afar, don't text me at all and it's always me texting her. When she talk's, she show lack of involvement as only I keep telling stuff and she'south like "Oh i see" "Hmm" and etc and rarely talk most something (Earlier she used to write hell long texts). And most of the time she say'due south "Gotta become goodbye" very early. That's how texting is going.

When i come across her, she leave very soon and talk's in monotone, and likewise doesn't share's something good with me.

I know there are enough of other daughter's on this planet and i tin get myself someone who'southward worth giving some *petty* value

But information technology'll be very exciting and great if i can somehow spark her interest level dorsum upwards again like it was before. Have anyone else been in the same situtation and then successfully take hold of her interest back over again?

Few friend's advised that I should just ignore her, and not text her again and soon as she realize that she finally ****ed me away, she'll be back chasing me.

I also thought virtually just non talking to her (until she text herself) but the trouble here is, we can merely ignore the i who talk'due south simply it's next to impossible to ignore someone who's already ignoring us, it may she don't intendance near it. What do you lot guy'southward think? Not texting her all of a sudden volition help ?

Nosotros mostly used to exercise late calorie-free texting but now she say's that she sleep very early (Which i think is a prevarication, how tin someone modify routine suddenly and at the same time she's showing lack of involvement).

The problem which i think is that I've had become so much clingy and my all the time texts and phone call'southward annoyed her.

I've learnt alot from this lesson and also read some part's of the dj bible, simply the question is about this girl, if i exercise the same thing that she is doing to me, will she react? Will she text me on her own? As we know allure is not logical, so once she felt the onetime attraction again, she won't intendance about how emotional and clingy i was in the past, she'll simply feel attracted if i right those thing's now, what yous guy's say?

Please advice me whatever ready of the situation and also explicate it's logic delight.

Your assist volition be greatly appreciated

• #ii

Do not contact her at all, ever, for the next xviii months. Then give it a shot.

• #3

Yous rushed into rejection. It's counter intuitive just learn to get slow with women fifty-fifty when they make it seem similar it's okay to get fast.

• #4

DonJuanabe said:

Do non contact her at all, always, for the side by side 18 months. Then give it a shot.

18 months? That's besides long time dude.

Renegade357 said:

You rushed into rejection. It'south counter intuitive merely learn to become slow with women fifty-fifty when they brand it seem like it'due south okay to go fast.

Yeah well learnt this, but equally u can run into my situation, is it worth to have any hope's of getting her allure back? If i start to ignore her, and do not contact her at present unless she do information technology. Would it brand her react or so?

• #5

Texting her every five seconds sure as hell isn't gonna assistance. This is pretty much washed. Move on and mayhap one day you might accept some other chance with her. For now pretend she never existed.

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• #6

Why is information technology too long? Because you are needy? Because you pine for her? Her emotional mindset is that yous are pathetic and she isn't interested. Period. Contacting her volition practice ane of two things: 1) naught - if you're lucky; 2) annoy her - which is more probable the case. Your presence cannot change her emotional mindset - only your absence and her negative experiences with other guys. Merely after her emotions for you are back to neutral do you accept a chance, and that takes TIME, more time than you lot'd like it to be, only it doesn't matter what you would similar, it only matters how she feels.

More than important than this detail woman, y'all need to learn how to maintain control over your emotions and what is and is non proper behavior and mindset with women.

• #7

The guy who said 18 months was not kidding. That'southward how long minimum it takes to MAYBE get a reset and that'south IF you lot practise everything right. I've done this a few times and I can tell yous it'south amusing but nowhere virtually worth the try. Move on dude.

One time a woman's interest level drops under a certain point there is nothing yous tin exercise inside the next 18 months. Sorry.

• #8

I see, but i hear on google, people proverb they ignorred the girl for few calendar week's and once she sense that she could have lost you -- she begins to react.

Any more advices.

• #9

Dave Paul said:

I see, but i hear on google, people saying they ignorred the girl for few calendar week'due south and once she sense that she could have lost you -- she begins to react.

Any more advices.

Yeah, that's if you lot haven't already run things into the ground. You lot're supposed to be aware and sense things this early so back off. I call up it's likewise late in your situation.

• #x

If, when she had started getting afar, you had backed off - a few weeks would exist fine.

Instead, you've but dug your ditch. To get out, it'll take fourth dimension.

Uncomplicated answer: encounter other women. At that place's a lot of them.

• #xi

the question i take here is why she suddenly lost interest?? afterwards she was into the texting and long written texts? why she suddnely got distant?bThat wasnt his mistake

• #12

lamobatsman said:

the question i have here is why she suddenly lost interest?? afterwards she was into the texting and long written texts? why she suddnely got distant?bThat wasnt his fault

She loved the attention to start with, only it got old. OP offered her no challenge, she knows she has him.
plus the clingy, needy messages.... eugh

No challenge =No interest
No challenge =No involvement
No claiming =No interest
No claiming =No interest

Get information technology?

• #13

Her interest lowed because of my ****'en smothering. So there's really not any chance of getting whatsoever reaction fast from her if i just disappear and stop texting?

I'm already NC until she text.

• #14

Aw, poor guy... you've only had 4 postal service on hither, so I'k going to tell you what I've told anybody else in countless threads, and which you have shown proof of in your own...

Texting KILLS Relationships.

Re-read that, burn it into your memory, and never do it again.

Existent talk: your countless texting to her, while not the sole cistron in her interest beingness lowered, played a great part in it. And hither'due south why:

1. It SHOWED Yous WERE TOO AVAILABLE
2. SOME OF YOUR TEXT PROBABLY CAME ACROSS Equally PATHETIC AND NEEDY
three. YOUR PATHETIC AND NEEDY TEXT WERE DOCUMENTED FOR HER TO Exist ABLE TO READ OVER AND OVER AGAIN - THUS, YOUR OWN WORDS WERE ABLE TO CONVINCE HER OF HOW LAME Y'all WERE BECOMING
4. YOU TOLD HER SO MUCH OVER TEXT, SHE DIDN'T HAVE A NEED TO SEE YOU Considering EVERYTHING YOU'D SAY IN PERSON You'VE ALREADY MESSAGED HER
5.TEXTING HER THAT MUCH Too Let HER BELIEVE YOU HAVE NO OTHER OPTIONS; GIRLS Desire TO BELIEVE THEIR Man IS WANTED BY OTHER CHICKS, But SENDING CONSTANT MESSAGES Made HER THINK OTHER GIRLS MAY Not DESIRE YOU

I could go on all solar day... but the point is, you shouldn't have text her that much. You should take spoon-fed yourself to this chick during the first three months so that she could spend the time away from you building up her interest in you by wondering just how much you like her. You lot took all the gauge work out of it, though, and now she'south bored; you wait needy, then now she's wondering merely how much y'all worship her; and, she heard from you too much, and tin can't imagine you'd accept anything else interesting to say.

Texting KILLS relationships.

At this point, she may come up back at some point, but information technology's really hard for a girl to take you back because she'll ever be waiting for the version of you that she dumped to come roaring back. I'd say start looking for new girls, and when you lot notice one, merely use the phone to prepare upward dates. All the stuff you want to message a chick should exist reserved for the date, and you shouldn't exist getting all chatty Cathy with them between dates.

Hope this helps!

• #15

Every bit I was scrolling I was thinking how is that Harry'southward TKR line isn't hither? And then, voila! Here it was lol.

Dude, finish with the phone, human being. Y'all didn't simply kill this attraction. You dragged it, hung it, quartered information technology, stuck it in a guillotine and cremated it.

One time a girl's interest drops, your relationship is over, stop trying to ignite it again, it's over.

I'm gonna permit Sargeant Hartman tell it best:

http://world wide web.youtube.com/watch?v=LwMIAwrIeuY&feature=youtu.exist#t=14s

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• #16

Purefilth said:

She loved the attention to start with, but it got onetime. OP offered her no challenge, she knows she has him.
plus the clingy, needy messages.... eugh

No challenge =No interest
No challenge =No interest
No challenge =No interest
No claiming =No interest

Go information technology?

This is also for Harry.

Now if u practise recall my post and my thread with the situation i had with my girl.
Now if a daughter is writing you all the time every solar day, then subsequently a few weeks like in this case IL drops. What is the reason? Cos this guy looks like no unlike to mine.
Also the girl i was chatting to did the same needy and clingy ****. She was very much like this at te outset. If i ddint reply she would say are you busy or why u not answer dorsum. she did this all the time. But when i did it it looks clingy and desparate?

I dont know how yous tin blame Dave because if a daughter is riting to me every mean solar day and has high IL tehn all of a sudden not and so high, of class he is going to wonder what is going on? Anyhow if the girl reli liked him she wudnt have stopepd texting him

• #17

lamobatsman said:

This is besides for Harry.

Now if u do recall my mail and my thread with the situation i had with my daughter.
Now if a girl is writing you all the fourth dimension every day, then later on a few weeks like in this instance IL drops. What is the reason? Cos this guy looks like no different to mine.
Likewise the girl i was chatting to did the aforementioned needy and clingy ****. She was very much like this at te beginning. If i ddint reply she would say are y'all decorated or why u not reply dorsum. she did this all the time. But when i did it it looks clingy and desparate?

I dont know how you can arraign Dave because if a girl is riting to me every twenty-four hours and has high IL tehn of a sudden not so high, of course he is going to wonder what is going on? Anyhow if the girl reli liked him she wudnt accept stopepd texting him

Link it and sick have a wait - I stand by my answer here though.

Likely someone else came along who wasnt clingy and sappy and didnt scare her off with hoards of daily essay length texts.

If she's "why yous no answer me"ing so thats good. you accept the little hamster spinning away, you were busy, whatever - y'all can practice a quick "busy right now, talk later" bulletin at your convenience.

"why you no answer me" is better than
"eugh needy clingy - NEXT" alongside
"3 months - all talk no activity - Adjacent"
Boy got nexted through too much text(girltalk)and not plenty action(human being stuff).
yous get me?

• #18

lamobatsman said:

Now if a girl is writing you all the time every day, and then subsequently a few weeks like in this case IL drops. What is the reason? Cos this guy looks similar no different to mine.

Yous're not recapping his story correctly. Here's what he said:

Well met this girl three month's ago and talked alot, her interest level was raising up and she was like always texting me, and everything was going well. And then i don't know what the **** happened and my deseperation came into the picture. I became clingy and always texting her, request her to reply back soon and when ever the time she don't text me back, i texted her asking what's wrong.

Run across the part in bold? That's where he went wrong - she didn't stop texting him until HE started texting HER too much and came across as desperate and needy.

Real talk: in a relationship, there are simply some things that girls tin get away with that us guys shouldn't do. Women can telephone call, text, message us all day and information technology not bug the states because, to united states of america, it shows interest. However, men can Non do the same matter to a woman - it comes across as non-masculine, being needy, united nations-trusting (i.e. ever texting her asking what she'southward doing and/or who she'southward with) clingy... the list goes on and on.

lamobatsman said:

Also the girl i was chatting to did the aforementioned needy and clingy ****. She was very much similar this at the first. If i didn't respond she would say are you busy or why u not reply back. she did this all the fourth dimension. But when i did it information technology looks clingy and desperate?

The trouble is, y'all're trying to relate to a woman as if she thinks like a guy. Real talk, at that place needs to exist a volume called "Think Like a Woman, Act Like a Man," 'cause the way you and Dave are reacting to these girls when they allegedly complain about something is all wrong.

In your situation: if a daughter is saying stuff like "why didn't you lot reply back" or request if you lot're busy, it means she has high interest. Yet, your response to these comments shouldn't exist to alter your behavior and offset writing back/contacting her more, but to keep doing the EXACT same thing you've been doing so that her interest remains high. All the girl is saying is that she's frustrated because, when you don't contact her dorsum, she doesn't know what y'all're doing. And she's DYING to know, merely since you're being a challenge and a mystery at times she can't quite figure you out. And yous don't WANT a daughter to always effigy you out COMPLETELY because in one case she does, the fun is over for her - she knows everything about you, becomes BORED of you, and starts looking for someone else.

I'k telling you - STAY OFF THE Telephone As MUCH Every bit POSSIBLE. Use information technology to fix date times and places, and that'south information technology. At the very least, do this until the daughter is your girlfriend, and fifty-fifty then, keep texting/calls/messaging/etc. to a minimum. E'er strive to have more than face-to-face time with a chick, and exit the things you'd talk most in a message for your dates then you'll really have stuff to talk about when y'all run across upwards. Promise this helps!

• #19

Harry Wilmington said:

You're non recapping his story correctly. Here'southward what he said:

Run into the part in bold? That'due south where he went wrong - she didn't terminate texting him until HE started texting HER likewise much and came across as desperate and needy.

Existent talk: in a human relationship, at that place are just some things that girls can get away with that us guys shouldn't do. Women can telephone call, text, message us all twenty-four hour period and information technology not bug us because, to us, it shows interest. However, men tin NOT practise the aforementioned thing to a woman - it comes across equally non-masculine, being needy, united nations-trusting (i.eastward. ever texting her request what she's doing and/or who she's with) clingy... the list goes on and on.

The problem is, you're trying to relate to a adult female equally if she thinks like a guy. Real talk, there needs to be a volume called "Recollect Like a Woman, Act Like a Homo," 'cause the way you and Dave are reacting to these girls when they allegedly complain near something is all wrong.

In your situation: if a girl is saying stuff like "why didn't you reply back" or asking if you're decorated, it ways she has high involvement. However, your response to these comments shouldn't be to change your behavior and get-go writing back/contacting her more, merely to continue doing the EXACT same thing you've been doing so that her interest remains high. All the daughter is saying is that she'south frustrated because, when you don't contact her dorsum, she doesn't know what you're doing. And she'south DYING to know, but since you're being a challenge and a mystery at times she can't quite figure you out. And you lot don't Want a girl to ever effigy you out COMPLETELY because once she does, the fun is over for her - she knows everything about you, becomes BORED of you, and starts looking for someone else.

I'one thousand telling you - STAY OFF THE Telephone AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE. Use information technology to set up engagement times and places, and that's information technology. At the very least, do this until the daughter is your girlfriend, and fifty-fifty so, go on texting/calls/messaging/etc. to a minimum. Always strive to take more contiguous time with a chick, and leave the things you'd talk about in a message for your dates and then you lot'll actually accept stuff to talk about when you encounter upwardly. Promise this helps!

you lot explain things much better than me - have some rep

• #20

Update: I didn't contacted her whole day today, and she texted herself!

We talked for almost ane 60 minutes, and her behaviour seemed lilliputian better then before ( might exist simply my own guess )

As before she stopped doing all talks on her ain and it was only me bringing up all the topic's but today she had at least few thing'southward to say.

Her behaviour was a little improve (fun) then before.

Just ameliorate as compared to the by, not skillful plenty though.

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